Community Guidelines.

• Your photos must be of you. Current, recognizable photos of your actual face or body.
• Your age must be your real age.
• Your profile must represent you. No fake profiles, no impersonation, no pretending to be someone you aren't.
• Images must be of you, or created by you (and not represent anyone else).

• Catfishing - Using fake photos, fake identity, or fake information to deceive people is a ban.
• Impersonation- Don't pretend to be anyone else, including celebrities or public figures.
• Screen grabs - Photos of celebrities, porn actors, or images pulled off the internet are not your photos.
• Deepfakes & AI-generated images - Synthetic media passed off as being you is not allowed (digital illustrations based on real images of yourself are fine).
• Scamming- We don't allow fake accounts or the use of Gaydar to entrap users.
• False information- Don't spread false or misleading information, including filing false reports against other members.
• Third-party apps- Don't use third-party apps to unlock features or game the system.

If your profile is reported as being fake, we may ask you to verify your identity using secure methods to keep your profile active.

• "No" is a full sentence. If someone says no, or stops responding, or asks you to stop - you stop. Full stop.
• Ask first.Don't send unsolicited nudes. Wait for a yes.
• Don't pressure, guilt, bribe, threaten, or wear someone down. That's not persuasion. That's coercion.
• Consent to one thing is not consent to another. Consenting to chat is not consenting to pics. Consenting to pics is not consenting to meeting. Consenting to meeting is not consenting to sex. Consenting to sex is not consenting to unsafe sex.
• Consent can be revoked at any time.If they change their mind, that's their right.
• You cannot consent when incapacitated.You cannot consent to anything when you're unconscious, asleep, or incapacitated. Neither can they.

• Ensuring consent means getting explicit and enthusiastic confirmation that your partner/s feels safe, affirmed, and are enjoying themselves.
• Providing consent means letting your partner/s know that you are enjoying yourself and feel comfortable with everything that is happening.
• Consent is always reversible - you can change your mind about what you want to do at any time, including stopping everything.

If you're going to meet someone in person, it's essential to ensure consent before any sexual activity. Gaydar takes reports of sexual assault extremely seriously and will ban for in-person/offline behavior.

• Send threatening, abusive, or degrading messages
• Follow, stalk, or repeatedly message someone who has blocked you or ignored you
• Create a new account to get around a block
• Send graphic messages or images to someone who hasn't asked for them
• Comment on someone's body, weight, age, or features in a cruel or shaming way
• Mock, insult, or belittle another user for who they are or what they enjoy
• Engage in behavior that is bullying, shaming, abusive, harassing, trolling, attacking, or aggressive
• Threaten to share photos or information unless someone pays you (this is sextortion, and it is a crime)

Rejection can be hard. We've all been there, and it hurts. If someone tells you no politely, it's best to just move on. If someone rejects you harshly, please report/block them and move on. Responding in kind won't help anything.

If you want to tell someone you're not interested, let them down gently but firmly. Keep things general - no need to insult people in the process.

Scripts to try:

• "Hey, sorry, don't think it's a match for me. Good luck :)"
• "Not a match - wishing you the best!"
• "I'm flattered, but I don't think we're a match. Best of luck!"

If a conversation isn't going anywhere, unmatch and move on. There is nothing to prove by being cruel.

Racism

• "No Asians," "no Blacks," "no Latinos," "masc4masc only," "English only," and similar language in your profile or messages is not a dating preference. It's racism with a filter on, and it's not allowed.
• Sexual racism and statements which target and discriminate against marginalized groups and identities (such as "[this group] only" or "no one from [marginalized group]") are prohibited.

Transphobia

• Trans men are men. Trans women are women. Non-binary people are non-binary.
• Refusing to accept someone's identity, deadnaming, or misgendering on purpose is harassment.
• Targeted and malicious deadnaming, misgendering, and discrimination based on gender, gender identity, and gender stereotypes are not allowed.
• Trans and non-binary people are welcome here.

Fetishization

• Fetishization dehumanizes someone at the expense of another person's desire by oversexualizing based on a single trait, characteristic, identity, or type (such as by race or gender).

Antisemitism, Islamophobia & Religious Discrimination

• Antisemitic language, imagery, conspiracy theories, or Holocaust denial is never allowed.
• Islamophobic language, stereotypes, or attacks on someone's Muslim identity are never allowed.
• Discrimination or harassment based on religion (Jewish, Muslim, Christian, Hindu, Buddhist, Sikh, atheist, or otherwise) is never allowed. Queer people of every faith and none belong here.

Xenophobia & National Origin

• Xenophobia, including anti-immigrant language, attacks on someone's country of origin, or demands like "English only," are never allowed.
• Targeting someone because they are an immigrant, refugee, or asylum-seeker is harassment.

Other Forms of Discrimination

• No femme-shaming, masc-shaming, or body-shaming. You can like what you like. You don't have to tear other people down to say so.
• No ageism as cruelty. You can date within an age range; you cannot humiliate people for being older, younger, or outside your range.
• No ableism. Disability, neurodivergence, and chronic illness are part of the community.
• No discrimination based on sexual orientation (such as biphobia, homophobia, or aphobia), health status, gender, or any other protected identity.

Hate Groups & Hate Symbols

• Promotion of or affiliation with hateful or violent organizations (including terrorist groups, white-supremacist groups, neo-Nazi groups, and violent extremist groups) is prohibited.
• Hate symbols are prohibited in profile photos, bios, and messages. This includes swastikas, SS bolts, Confederate flags, Iron Crosses used in hate contexts, numeric hate codes (1488, etc.), and any iconography associated with white-supremacist, neo-Nazi, or violent-extremist movements.

"I'm just being honest" is not a defense. How you say it matters.

Instead of saying who you don't want to see, share your desires in a positive, affirmative way:

• "Interested in gay men"
• "Looking for my bi+ babes"
• "POC to the front"
• "T4T"
• "Hit me up if you're femme!"

If you encounter others who don't meet your personal criteria, simply choose not to match or unmatch, and move on.

To better support the community's well-being, Gaydar provides options to share self-reported health information. One of the most important things you can do if you get diagnosed with an STI is to tell your partners. That way, they can make an informed decision and get tested too.

If you knowingly put someone at risk of an infection and don't disclose it, this puts their health at risk and violates our harmful offline behavior policy.

• No fully visible genitals
• No explicit sex acts
• No minors
• No content involving anyone who hasn't consented to be on Gaydar
• Underwear photos and non-pornographic sexual poses are generally allowed
• Some images of butts may be allowed if non-graphic and without overly sexual context

• You can post nudes of yourself
• No images of others without their explicit and enthusiastic consent
• No violent content
• No content trying to promote or sell anything
• Everything still needs to be legal and consensual

Ask before you send. Every time.

Do not share, screenshot, or repost private content another user has sent you. Not in a group chat, not to your friends, not to another app, not anywhere. The content was shared with you. Sharing it further is a violation and, depending on where you live, may also be a crime.

If someone shares your images without permission, or threatens to do so, let us know immediately. Gaydar does not allow the sharing of non-consensual imagery.

If someone is using your image without your consent, report it and we will take it down fast.

• Asking for money, gifts, or donations; giving out payment app or bank account info
• Offers to buy any kind of good or service
• Advertising or sending promotional materials for a business, club, event, contest, or organization
• Sugar daddy/baby arrangements, "gen"/generous, "pay to play" or p2p, findom
• Paid massages, escorting services, or any form of sex work
• Emojis commonly associated with buying/selling goods or services
• Multi-level marketing, "coaches," courses, OnlyFans recruitment, or other commercial ventures

• Links to your social media profiles (Instagram, TikTok, etc.) in designated areas
• Links to personal websites or small businesses in appropriate fields
• Health organizations and nonprofits looking to conduct outreach should contact us for official collaboration

• "Party and play," "PnP," "T," "G," and similar requests to buy or sell
• Photos of illegal drugs, drug use, or paraphernalia
• Profiles centered around or mainly consisting of drug content
• Demonstrating or encouraging irresponsible drug use
• Public mention of non-prescription drugs (other than cannabis) unless in the context of addiction recovery
• Discussing or participating in the buying or selling of drugs (of any kind)

• Casual references to cannabis, tobacco, and alcohol (for example, a cannabis leaf on a t-shirt)
• Harm reduction conversations between consenting adults (what to mix, what to avoid, testing, Narcan)
• Discussions about addiction recovery

• Phone numbers, email addresses, physical addresses
• Links to private communication apps like WhatsApp
• Financial information like bank account numbers
• Links to financial apps like Venmo, Cash App, or Zelle

• Do not share another user's real name, workplace, address, family info, immigration status, HIV status, trans status, or sexual orientation outside of Gaydar without their clear, specific permission.
• Do not share other people's information, for any reason (even if you mean well).
• This includes sharing private chats or images, publicly outing someone, or linking their real-world identity (including social media accounts, real names, etc.) to a profile.

Outing someone - publicly revealing their queerness, trans status, HIV status, or any private identity detail they haven't chosen to share - is one of the most serious violations you can commit on Gaydar.

Conversations on Gaydar are meant to stay on Gaydar. Unless they've been given consent, members should never post private chats they've had with matches.

Do not share the password to your account with others. We will never ask for your password.

We do not allow:

• Violent behavior, either online or offline (including assault, robbery, stalking)
• Threats (credible threats may be escalated to law enforcement)
• Offensive or harmful content, even if there was no ill intent
• Memes or jokes that are disparaging or discriminatory of others
• Animal abuse imagery
• Images of weapons and firearms (images clearly of toys in a non-threatening context are ok)
• Blood or gore (costumes with fake blood are ok)
• Images that are violent or threatening against any person or group
• Content showing affiliation with or support of violent, hateful, or extremist groups
• Encouraging dangerous behavior, such as self-harm or dangerous challenges

• Don't use Gaydar for the commission or encouragement of any illegal purpose
• Don't violate any local, state, national, or international law
• Don't use Gaydar to buy or sell drugs or counterfeit goods
• Don't use Gaydar to seek assistance for criminal acts
• Don't use Gaydar to advertise or participate in any harmful activity involving minors or human trafficking

We don't allow the use of Gaydar to entrap or coerce our users for any reason. We work with NGOs to help challenge entrapments and honeytraps of users in high-risk contexts.

• Meet somewhere public first if you can
• Tell a friend where you're going and who you're meeting
• Trust your gut. You can always leave.
• Share your location with someone you trust, not just the person you're meeting
• If you travel to meet someone, keep a way home of your own
• If something feels wrong, it probably is. You do not owe anyone a hookup.

Contact local emergency services first. Then report it to Gaydar at our trust and safety email.

• Images must be of you or created by you
• No collages or compositions of multiple photos
• No extreme close-ups where only one body feature is visible
• No photos with text, emoji, stickers, filters, themed frames, watermarks, or censor blocks overlaid
• No blurry or distorted photos
• No photos of landscapes, animals, buildings, or cartoons/memes as your main photo
• No photos of pets or other animals unless you are also in the photo

• Images of minors in any context
• Child sexual abuse material
• Images of people without their consent
• Copyrighted images from others
• Deepfakes or AI-generated images passed off as you
• Violent or disturbing images
• Drug use imagery
• Commercial advertising images

Gaydar allows creative content (doesn't have to show your face) including photos or drawings you've made yourself.

• Expressing political opinions
• Encouraging others to vote
• Talking about who you're voting for
• Exchanging information on the democratic process

• Manipulation, harassment, or intimidation
• Spreading disinformation
• Interference with the democratic process
• Our policy on hate speech still applies during political discussions

Misuse of Gaydar's reporting system is not allowed. This includes:

• Sending multiple reports for the same issue
• Maliciously reporting people
• Reporting someone simply because of their identity

We read every report. We will not always tell you what action we took - out of fairness and safety, our moderation decisions are private - but we take action. Repeated malicious or bad-faith reporting is itself a violation and is subject to the same graduated enforcement path described in Section 18.

• Humans make the final call. Automated systems help us surface and route reports, but a human moderator reviews every report before we take action against an account.
• Standard SLA: first review within 7 days of receiving a report. Most reports are reviewed much faster.
• Order of priority:
  1. Imminent-harm reports first: CSAM, credible threats of violence, sextortion in progress
  2. Time-sensitive next: harassment campaigns, non-consensual intimate imagery (NCII), active stalking
  3. Standard last: profile policy violations, discrimination reports, scams, rule-of-thumb rudeness

Some violations skip the graduated path entirely and result in an immediate, permanent ban:

• CSAM, grooming, or any content involving minors
• Sextortion
• Stalking
• Non-consensual sharing of intimate images
• Credible threats of violence
• Impersonation of a real person
• Human trafficking
• Hate symbols or hate-group affiliation (see Section 5)
• Any violation that includes real-world harm to another person

These are immediate permanent bans. No warnings. No graduated path.

For violations that are not single-strike offenses, we use a graduated path. A "sustained" violation means a report that survives review. Dismissed reports do not count against you.

• First sustained violation: reviewed within 7 days. Outcome is one of: dismissed, a warning (no suspension), or a 30-day suspension, depending on severity.
• Second sustained violation within 90 days: 60-day suspension.
• Third sustained violation within 180 days: 90-day suspension.
• Four or more sustained violations (lifetime): permanent ban.

• If you are the subject of 3 or more unrelated reports within 14 days, or if a single report alleges serious harm, we may temporarily suspend the account while we investigate.
• A temporary suspension is not a finding against you. If the investigation dismisses the reports, the account is restored in full with no record.
• Investigations targeted at restoring an account are prioritized and resolved within 3 business days.

• Every affected party (reported user, and reporter where appropriate) receives an in-app inbox message when we act on a report.
• If your account is suspended or banned, you also receive an SMS to the verified phone number on file.
• If you have an email on file, you also receive an email copy of the decision and the reason.
• For sensitive violations (sextortion, account takeover, stalking) where SMS to the phone on file could reach the wrong person, we use in-app and email only until we can verify the account holder has regained phone control.

We will confirm that we acted on your report (or dismissed it). We will not share details of what action was taken against the reported user, out of respect for their privacy and the integrity of future investigations. This is standard trust-and-safety practice across the industry.

• Email trust@gaydarapp.comwith "Appeal" and your ticket ID in the subject line, or submit a support ticket via /contact?type=support.
• Appeals are reviewed by a different moderator than the one who made the original decision.
• We respond to appeals within 10 business days.
• You can appeal once per decision. Further appeals are considered only if new material evidence is presented.
• Appeal decisions are final.

• A suspended account is hidden from other users, but your data is preserved.
• You can still exercise your privacy rights during a suspension: request a copy of your data (GDPR Article 15 / CCPA §1798.110), request correction, or request account deletion at any time via /privacy-request.
• You can voluntarily close your account during a suspension by submitting a deletion request at /delete-account.

• Your account is permanently closed.
• Device and hardware identifiers associated with the account are also banned, so creating a new account on the same device to evade the ban is harder.
• Any active paid subscription time is forfeited without refund.
• Your data is deleted on our standard 30-day schedule unless legal obligations require us to retain it longer.

• CSAM or suspected child endangerment: reported to NCMEC (National Center for Missing & Exploited Children) and relevant law enforcement per US law (18 U.S.C. §2258A).
• Credible threats of violence: reported to local law enforcement in the relevant jurisdiction.
• Sextortion victims:we provide FBI IC3 (ic3.gov) and the FBI's Stop Sextortion resources, and preserve evidence for any investigation.
• Human trafficking: reported to the National Human Trafficking Hotline and relevant authorities.
• Law enforcement requests for data require valid legal process (subpoena, court order, or warrant) per our law-enforcement-request policy at legal@gaydarapp.com.

We will publish an aggregate annual transparency report showing total reports received, actions taken by category, appeals requested and their outcomes, and law-enforcement cooperation - all without identifying any individual user. Our first report will publish within 12 months of launch.

If you feel you or someone else is in immediate danger or need emergency assistance:

• Call emergency services in your area if you feel that is safe for you
• Reach out to LGBTQ-friendly organizations who can provide support to those experiencing emotional distress